There was a segment on Tell Me More yesterday, about the new Blue Star Families PSA concerning suicide and in memory of Clay Hunt, a member of IAVA and decorated Marine who recently committed suicide. It was a great piece. But unfortunately on the site a couple of comments were posted, that are making some of us grind our teeth. Someone who posted as Penny Lane put this out… [warning, you might want to throw something at your computer]
I, for one, am tired of being made to feel guilty and ungrateful.
I didn’t ask for the wars and I didn’t ask to have my tax dollars spent on the military machine. I didn’t walk around with signs saying “Invade Iraq” just because we can.
Why don’t you go to Crawford, Texas and talk to the man who decided we needed to avenge his daddy?
Almost 10 years of solid war, and on more than two fronts.
What else were we expecting?
Time to decrease the military. We can’t afford it, on any level. It does not keep us safer. It actually increases our risk of being attacked.
Thank you for your service, but you volunteered.
Young people kill themselves every day, without experiencing the horror of war. I don’t know how you can claim to be different or special.
Now then… a friend of mine wrote a wonderful rebuttal at her blog – Smurfoflauge Cafe here’s a brief segment of her response to Penny Lane (but I really recommend that you go over and read the whole thing)
We are asking that you STOP and do not callously cast aside those who work to fulfill American’s choices about our conduct with other nations. We ask you to stop using, “You volunteered” as an excuse to disregard us and our efforts to make this country better. We ask you to stop and listen to servicemembers, veterans and their families and try to understand the true costs of the war you have voted to engage in. We ask you to help us get the medical and mental health care we need and failing that, at least be kind. It is the smallest task to at least show you care enough about our Nation to be engaged in what you as a citizen have chosen and enacted.
Words hurt. Telling someone that they don’t deserve to have support from the American people, even minimal support in the form of medical and mental health coverage, is tantamount to spitting in military families faces. It’s saying that you are more than happy to use them up and then cast them out and step on them like the dust under your feet as soon as they are no longer physically or mentally able to serve your whims. It is the gravest of all insults and suggests that at least a large segment of the American people have forgotten that citizenship isn’t all about the right to watch American Idol while eating french fries, it’s about being responsible for choosing this Nation’s future and then acting upon those choices.
Military families are hurting, we are exhausted from multiple deployments, we are terribly proud of our spouses, we are proud of being military spouses. But we’ve been doing this for 10 years. We are the 1 percent, who don’t deserve to be scorned or told “you volunteered” so suck it up.
We aren’t talking about getting a discount at a store, we aren’t talking about someone paying for a coffee – we are talking about our family members committing suicide! We are talking about our families disintegrating, about the despair that is driving too many of us to over medicate ourselves; and we are talking about reaching out and giving a person a hand or a shoulder.
Being treated with the scorn that Penny Lane decided to heap on, to know that she did that on a link to a radio show with the mother of Clay Hunt, is frankly stunning to me. I assume that Ms. Lane (?) wouldn’t show that level of disrespect to anyone who had lost a child – so why WHY did she feel she could do this, should do this, to a dead Marine’s mother, to a veteran or a military spouse? I have no idea – but I think she owes everyone on that show an apology.